Tuesday, September 25, 2012

The N word

It's been a minute since I've posted, sorry.  Busy trying to keep up with the boy, 3 classes and the dreaded job.  Things have been pretty good my way though; school is still going well for both of us, which makes me smile!

My son has a friend from soccer that he's known for a few years and we got  a chance to see them this weekend (fun!).  We actually hadn't seen them in a year although they only live a few blocks away.  The mom went back to work full time and she works an odd schedule like mine; she works on days that I'm off, so getting together just hasn't happened. 

This family includes a mom from Argentina but she's been in the US for several years now, and dad is white and a son and daughter.  I mentioned this because I wanted to think it has alot to do with the rest of the story I'm about to post. 

Anyway, we were going to the beach in the evening but the clouds came and the sprinkles started so we just went to their house and sat and talked for FOUR hours about everything. At one point the daughter, who plays viola and just started middle school, came out to tell me about how she wanted to start a band with her 2 best friends who are black.  She wanted to call the band Oreo, which I thought was cute!  As the convo went on, she mentioned that one of the girls said they could call the band "One cracker and two black girls."  So she said her reply was "we can call it "one cracker and two niggers." The mom joined in on telling the story and they were laughing as I sat there giving them both a blank stare (wish I could insert a gif here). 

Let me also mention that my son has no black friends, although I try to expose him to different situations, but I guess he likes who he likes and I have no problem with that.  Back to the story...I wasn't sure how to address that because I'm usually very vocal, but this caught me off guard.  I think mom noticed the look on my face and mentioned that the girls were all just joking.  I do plan to address this with the mom because I understand she is not from this country and doesn't understand the history of the N word or this country's racial history.  That being said, part of me feels bad because I should have taken that moment to give her and her daughter a brief education. 

Now, I'm feeling that I need to educate my son on this word just in case he's around them and they casually throw that around again...Awww...the joys of parenting.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Random thoughts this way come

Well, this is week 3 of school; so far so good.  The little one likes his teachers and seems (dare I say) a bit excited about school.  He has only had one full week so far because last Monday was cancelled due to a tropical storm, he was sick Tuesday and Wednesday and this Monday was a holiday.  Sometimes, it seems these kids are out of school more than they are in. 

This is also week 3 for me in school and....so far, so good!  I'm taking 3 courses (usually only take 2) but I think I can pull it off.  This is my last semester of courses before taking my Capstone (internship) next semester and then......I'm DONE!!!!!

I have had a couple of job interviews last week and I'm excited to be getting some hits on the thousands of resumes I've been sending out. As much as I loathe my current job, part of me realized that I like having a weekday off and being able to pick my son up from school that one day.  I don't know....

My dream job would be no job at all but still being able to make money.  Being unemployed for two years has made me a HORRIBLE employee and I really want to be my own boss.  I just can't come up with a legal business idea that would make enough money to sustain my son and I and our home plus health insurance and so forth.  I'm still holding out hope for a sugardaddy mate someday.