Saturday, June 15, 2013

Onlies, friends, summer and other random stuff

So we just finished the first full week out of school and the boy has been chilling at grandma's and I took yesterday off to hang out with him.  We are counting down the days until Hawaii...Can.Not.Wait! I really wish I could be off during the summer to do more things with him but oh well. 

I reached out yesterday to the mom of one of his friends to try and get them together but no luck.  I understand that most of his friends come from 2 parent households and have siblings, so I guess that makes things different.  In our case, if we want to do something or accept an invite, all we have to do is say yes and go; there's no husband to consult and other kids to worry about. 

Anyway, this family is constantly busy; they travel with the oldest and her sport, and the 2 boys just got into football last year (one tackle and one flag).  The last year has been almost impossible to get the boys together and this is the child my son considers his best friend.  I think I need to step back and look at it objectively because usually I don't.  I don't really have friends (1 good one and 1 sometime one) even though I've lived in the same city all my life.  I just can't chase behind folks, it's not something I do. If I have to do all of the asking and pursuing, we probably won't stay friends long.

Anywho....back to my son.  I asked if the boys could get together and every week/weekend until July had an activity already.  I even offered for him to come to our house just for a Saturday (when I'm off) and there were plans for weekends too. She finally said the first weekend of July but that's when we will be out of town and shortly after that the other boy will start football.  What to do?  I've talked to my son about becoming involved so that he can make more friends but that has been a big fat NO.  I know they still consider themselves friends and the parents really like my son but why is it so hard to carve out ONE day for them to get together?! Am I making too much of this? My good male friend told me I was projecting my own issues onto my son.....hmmm.

Have a great summer all!