Saturday, March 26, 2011

Why does my son go crazy when I'm on the phone???

I don't get it so I'm reaching out to other parents for help/answers. I'm not much of a phone person, so I'm not on it it very often. My son has always gotten my undivided attention for the most part.

But I've noticed something that disturbs me: he totally gets into things when I do get on the phone!! I just don't understand. This has been going on for awhile and I've mostly ignored it because it's not a frequent thing, but I don't want to ignore it anymore (he's 8 for goodness sakes!!).

Last night I was on the phone and the conversation did go a bit long (number 1 reason I don't talk on the phone); maybe an hour and a half. I left the family room because my son was watching tv there and usually he tells me I talk too loud.

Anyway, when I was picking up later that evening I noticed a couple of things. He had gotten dental floss and cut it into little pieces on the floor and he also got this tape I use for hemming pants and cut that into little strips. Of course, I asked him why he did it and his answer was, "I don't know."

Is this an attention getter or what?

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Making friends at 40

I'm not sure what I've been going through lately (PMS, depression, mid life crisis), who knows. What I do know that the one thing that I've gotten joy from for 8 yrs, seems to bring me more aggravation than anything. That thing is being a mom (I feel bad just typing it out).

When I first got divorced, I made being a mommy my life. I've never had many friends (despite living in the same city my entire life) and that has always been fine for me. Lately it doesn't seem to be ok anymore. I need (want) something for myself.

I went back to school to get my degree a couple of years ago (after a layoff) and I feel some gratification from that but there's still something missing and I need to figure it out soon. To clarify, I love my son and spending time with him. I also love my own company, so I don't need to be surrounded by people constantly.

I just want some time to myself every now and then (which I don't get-that's another post) and I would like to go out to events that aren't kid/family oriented. I feel like a horrible mom lately because most of my frustration gets dumped on my son, which isn't fair to him and leaves me (and him) feeling horrible!

The issue is for me is everyone I know, including my sisters and my son's friends' moms, are all married. I have nothing against married people but I'd like to meet some people that are single with kids. The million dollar question is, how do I meet people and make friends at this stage in my life?

I feel this would give me an outlet and make me a better mom.

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Meet me in the thought room

So, I missed my post last Sunday and I do apologize.

I have a lot of thoughts floating around in my head but only a few that I want to write about. This week I want to touch on a few things that no one tells you about parenting.

3 things no one tells you about parenting:

1. You will not always enjoy it

2. You may not always like your child/ren

3. It's not all sunshine and snowflakes all the time

those are my thoughts for the week. If anyone else has anything to add to the above list; feel free to do so.