Saturday, October 26, 2013

What's been going on at The Mom Spot house you ask

 I really don't post much anymore but feel the urge to drop by every now and then.  I keep saying I'm done blogging but just can't bring myself to shut it down yet.  So here's what's going on in our world...

School

School started about 40 days or so ago and the boy seems to be doing well in 5th grade so far.  Math has always been one of his fave subjects and I definitely think it's gotten harder.  They are really focused on decimals and division at this point; we will see how it goes the rest of the year.  He's still not in any outside of school activities yet (still working on that).  He is enjoying being a safety patrol and even one of the school employees noticed that he takes his responsibilty "seriously."  He was also selected for student council again this year! He enjoys it and hopefully it's something he'll want to continue in middle school.

Work/Career

So my job announced a few weeks ago that they will soon close the center I work at.  I know I should be sad or something but I'm so overjoyed not.  I do feel bad for the people that have been there for many years and had planned to ride this job out until retirement.  I have LOATHED this job pretty much everyday for the 2.8 years I've been there and suffered through it because I wanted to finish school before moving on and having a day off during the week made going to school a bit easier.  I do see how a person can become complacent though, even in an uncomfortable situation that you dislike.  One of my co-workers said she only planned to be there 6 months and has been there almost 8 years!  It's easy to just wake up, get dressed and keep doing the same thing day in and day out because it's familiar.  Well the job announcement has awakened me from my stupor and I finally updated my resume with my new degree, had reviewed several times and have been applying to different healthcare jobs like crazy!  Hopefully a door will open for me soon (fingers,toes and everything else crossed)...even though I have no healthcare background. 


That's about it for now,  I know; boring, but that's it.  What's going on in your world?


Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Houston, we have a hair....underarm hair that is!

Well it has happened.... I guess puberty has hit our household (sniff, sniff).  My baby came out of the shower yesterday morning (naked, I might add, another post for another time) and showed me is LONE underarm hair.  He was so proud of it too, so I had to make a big deal out of it but really I'm sad because he's growing up WAY too fast for my liking. 

Fifth grade is the year that they learn about puberty and their "changing bodies" in school.  The teachers will conveniently teach this health segment the last week of school and then ship them off for the summer with all of their questions...yay (insert sarcasm). 

Call me lame, crazy or whatever, but I honestly didn't know boys went through puberty.  I just found this out last year!  Oh well, that's what happens when you grow up with four sisters.  I knew how OUR bodies changed but other than a deepening voice, I didn't think boys really had to concern themselves with puberty. 

So I guess our journey has begun.  I think I knew it was coming because for the last year or so he has been so emotional (yay me!...insert more sarcasm here) and my oldest sis (thanks sis!) said that was one of the stages of puberty.  So...what comes next?! Whatever it is, we're ready...I think.

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Mom Musings

I need another couple of weeks off but at least a few days need to be me; alone.  I love my son dearly but find myself lately in desperate need of some time to myself.  Even a few hours would recharge my batteries and give me the umph to keep doing what I do on a daily basis.  I feel bad because lately I'm short with him or find myself just saying "uh huh" when he's talking because at that moment all I want is quiet.  Maybe it's time to reach out to his dad and ask him to keep him for a few hours or overnight. Of course this would require me forcing convincing the boy! Part of what I'm feeling maybe related to PMS; possibly.

On the topic of PMS...This year makes 30 years that I have been having a period! THIRTY years!! That's a long time.  I have known for the last 10 years that I would more than likely never birth more children, so why can't I just shut this off already?!  I don't have bothersome periods but at this point in life they are becoming more of an annoyance than anything else.  I mean, what's the point? Since I'm on this subject, I will share my wonderful new discovery.  It's called a Diva Cup! I found this about a year ago but finally took the plunge and bought one last month...so far, so good.  Only wish I had known about menstrual cups years ago.  Think of all of the money I could've saved on pads/tampons...ugh!

I'll try to end this on a more positive topic.  I started Weight Watchers a couple of months ago and am pleased to announce I have lost almost 10 lbs! It is coming off slowly but I'm staying within the recommended average of .5-2 lbs lost each week, so I'm happy with my results so far.  I know I would lose more if I cut out hitting the drive-thru ALTOGETHER! Also, if I add some activity to my life (so hard for me).  I've hit my 5% already, now just trying to get down another 5 lbs...slow and steady, slow and steady.

Have a great week!










Wednesday, July 10, 2013

We're baaackkk!

Hawaii was awesome!  We got back yesterday but unfortunately our bodies are still on Hawaii time...ugh...so tired.  It's good to be back home but I definitely could have stayed a few more days.  I'm already looking to see where we can go next. 

Not much else to report.  I get to hang out with the boy for a few more days before I head back to work on Sunday. 

Hope everyone else is having a good summer so far.

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Onlies, friends, summer and other random stuff

So we just finished the first full week out of school and the boy has been chilling at grandma's and I took yesterday off to hang out with him.  We are counting down the days until Hawaii...Can.Not.Wait! I really wish I could be off during the summer to do more things with him but oh well. 

I reached out yesterday to the mom of one of his friends to try and get them together but no luck.  I understand that most of his friends come from 2 parent households and have siblings, so I guess that makes things different.  In our case, if we want to do something or accept an invite, all we have to do is say yes and go; there's no husband to consult and other kids to worry about. 

Anyway, this family is constantly busy; they travel with the oldest and her sport, and the 2 boys just got into football last year (one tackle and one flag).  The last year has been almost impossible to get the boys together and this is the child my son considers his best friend.  I think I need to step back and look at it objectively because usually I don't.  I don't really have friends (1 good one and 1 sometime one) even though I've lived in the same city all my life.  I just can't chase behind folks, it's not something I do. If I have to do all of the asking and pursuing, we probably won't stay friends long.

Anywho....back to my son.  I asked if the boys could get together and every week/weekend until July had an activity already.  I even offered for him to come to our house just for a Saturday (when I'm off) and there were plans for weekends too. She finally said the first weekend of July but that's when we will be out of town and shortly after that the other boy will start football.  What to do?  I've talked to my son about becoming involved so that he can make more friends but that has been a big fat NO.  I know they still consider themselves friends and the parents really like my son but why is it so hard to carve out ONE day for them to get together?! Am I making too much of this? My good male friend told me I was projecting my own issues onto my son.....hmmm.

Have a great summer all!

Monday, May 20, 2013

Quick brag on the boy...

I know I've mentioned that the boy has had a great year academically this year.  The year just seems to be a breeze for him and although I know he probably could've made straight A's this year (he can be a bit lazy), his grades have been awesome and I can actually see how much he has learned and grown in his education. 

At my son's school, 5th graders can be safety patrols.  Well, he applied (all of the kids in his class applied except one) and was chosen!  His first day on the "job" was this afternoon.  He will shadow a 5th grader today through Wednesday and then he'll be on his own starting Friday.  He was really excited when he found out Friday and I'm very proud of him. 

Just had to share. 

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Catching up

I haven't been around much lately...sorry.  I think I'm honestly over the blogging thing.  It served it's purpose for me and where I was in life.  Anywho...on to my updates.

As of May 4th, I'm now officially a college graduate!  It was such an exhausting awesome day! I actually got emotional and started crying during the ceremony, which I didn't plan to do.  During the prayer, I just started reflecting about how God had to be with me during the last couple of years helping me through.  I also started thinking about my late father and how happy and proud he would have been and the tears just came.  The only bad part about the morning was the miscommunication about the meeting place after the ceremony, which led to me not seeing my family (until we met at the restaurant)or having any pics taken of me in cap/gown. 

Now that school is over, I'm on to another goal I have for myself but I won't get into that one.  I will say that I definitely see more schooling in my future!

My boy is doing well and happy that school is almost over.  Not sure what the summer plans are yet; maybe a few different camps like we usually do along with some time with dad and granny.  We are still working getting his stomach issues resolved and praying a solution comes soon. 

Well that's all for now.

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Dear Ex-husband

**This post was written a few weeks ago as a rant.  I never intended to post it but I think now it needs to see the light of day.**

Dear Ex husband,

Please do not ask me again to "encourage" the boy to call, spend time, whatever with you.  Don't I have enough to do, what with raising him pretty much solo for 10 years.  You are the adult, why does he have to pursue, call, check on you to see how you're doing? You are supposed to be the parent, you should be doing the pursuing.  I think you know me well enough to know that I don't chase anyone and I do not plan to teach my child to run up behind folk, including you. 

Why is it that I never have to "encourage" the boy to check on my mom or my sister?  You know why, because they have spent the last 10 years cultivating and pursuing a relationship with him so he actually wants to talk to or spend time with them now.  It's almost funny that you, at your age, still haven't figured out that life doesn't revolve around you and that you do need to "pursue" your kids if you want a relationship with them. 

You knew that your son was out of school ALL week last week (Spring Break a few weeks ago) and you did not bother to call him once! Yet, you have the nerve to say something to me the first day back to school about HIM not calling YOU?! Bitch please! You are the same person that didn't bother to call your child on Christmas day and then show up a few days later to fuss at him (and have him in tears) for not calling you.  To top it off, you give him an unwrapped Christmas gift (shirts) in a fake gift bag! Were you ever a kid?! Do you even remember what it was like and how exciting Christmas was at that age?! Are you THAT selfish?....oh, that's right, you are.

I swear it's times like this that I really wish I had chosen a different sperm donor! I also wish I been more in my right mind when the boy was born so I could have given him my family name instead of yours.  At least with my name, he could've had a name to be proud of. Your entire family is trifling, including your mother that has never even sent a birthday card in 10 years, and I hate that my son has to carry that name when it really means nothing. 

Fast forward to today.  You know that I work Sundays and you never keep him because he'd rather stay with my sis or mom.  They are out of town so I ask you to keep him, which is fine.  I call last night, several times, to confirm and no answer.  So when I get you this morning this is the convo:

me: did you see where I called and did you get my messages?

ex: no

me: you need to get a new cell phone then because I've never heard of a cell phone that doesn't show messages and missed calls

Lying ass!  It's stuff like this that irks the hell out of me.  And you wonder why I don't "encourage" the boy to call you?  Please!

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Updates on the mom and boy

I haven't been around lately as you can see by my lack of posts.  Honestly, I haven't had much to say and no real desire to post anything.  We are still alive and kicking in case anyone was wondering...LOL! Here's what we've been up to:

On school...

The boy got his second report card and made the honor roll again...Woot Woot! I'm proud of him but still would like to see him be less lazy and more excited about school.  He said he'd like to make Principal's List for the last report card...we shall see. 

He also tested on grade level for reading during the second round of assessments!  Yay!  This makes me sooooo happy.  He is still in after school tutoring one day a week and I think I will let him continue that; it can only help right? I told him it would be nice to see him above grade level in reading by the end of the school year. 

I am almost at the end of my education and graduation is quickly approaching (May 4th)! Of course, that is if I finish the many assignments that I should have worked on this week while off need to finish.  I've come to far and worked too hard not to graduate, so I know I have to get these assignments done but I'm having a MAJOR case of senioritis...ugh!

On health...

About a month or so ago, I won the "World's Worst Mom" award.  I found out my boy has high cholesterol and has gained 10 lbs (Yikes) since September! I was so embarrassed and felt horrible for my child for doing this to him.  Somewhere during the last year, I have to admit, that our eating habits have become horrible.  With me getting off at 6, being totally unorganized, not to mention tired alot, it became easier to just hit up a drive thru for dinner.  I knew we had become horrible with eating veggies but I had no idea things were so bad that it would affect my child's cholesterol and make him gain that much weight so quickly.  One weird thing is, I couldn't even tell he had put on that much weight (maybe because I see him everyday.). 

Anywho, now that I'm over the pity party, I have decided we both need to be more active and eat better after spring break is over this week for our health.  One thing we've been doing is bike riding more now that it's still light out when we get home.  One step at a time to create new, healthier habits.  Of course the boy is fighting the eating healthy thing tooth and nail.  His doc wants to test his  cholesterol again and I want to see some good results.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

10 years ago today...

I became a mom and I remember the day like it was yesterday.  Although the boy is super excited about being "two digits," I'm feeling a bit sad.  Of course that's normal for me; I've gotten weepy at every milestone or birthday he's had. 

As someone who never wanted kids, I have to say, deciding to become a mom was the best thing I've done so far in life.  Our life isn't perfect but I wouldn't trade the last decade for anything in the world! Although I would trade the whiny, teary eyed child that didn't want to go to school this morning because it's "my birthday" for a cup of coffee...LOL!

I thought this year would be a big party since it's a big birthday but the boy said he just wanted family.  That worked out great because I really wasn't up to planning or paying for a big party.  We all gathered at a local park on Saturday and it was great!  The weather was awesome, the park was full of other families, the water was beautiful and everyone had a great time!

So, to my awesome son; I love you and Happy Birthday!!!

Saturday, January 19, 2013

So....

What's been going on in our world in 2013 you ask? Even if you didn't ask, here goes. 

The new year has started out ok (maybe I say that because I'm trying to learn to see the positive more).  I'm still not rich and I'm still carrying an extra 30 lbs but oh well. 

On the healthcare front:

I had my yearly well woman exam and my midwife said "why should you bleed every month when you're done having kids?" I was a bit surprised by that statement because I'm one of those people that says let the body does what it does, for the most part.  I've been having a period for 30 years and honestly I don't see it as that big of a deal.  It has gotten a bit heavier since my son was born but nothing major.  She suggested this procedure that will make me no longer have a period and it costs....$1100...um, No thanks! 

The boy has missed 2 days of school this week and has missed about 10 so far this year!  I have to get to the bottom of these stomach issues he's having.  He has done two rounds of acid reflux meds and that hasn't worked.  He's still having sporadic nausea and vomiting.  The doc suggested doing an upper GI and I just don't want him to go through that. 

On the school front:

The boy is kicking butt in school still.  As of now he has 4 A's and 1 B and his reading lexile has improved about 200 points.  He's at grade level now but I still want him to continue tutoring and I'm making him read more at home.  I would like to see him at the top of grade level by the end of the year or possibly above grade level. 

I am finishing up week two of my final semester.  I am interning at my local health department and met with my mentor and her supervisor this week.  My only real concern is if I will be able to get the 60 hours I need before April?!

That's it for now, hope everyone else is having a swell 2013!